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What can you do to feel more confident when meeting your online date?
You’ve been texting your online beau for months, and now it’s time to meet them face to face for the first time. While chatting into the wee small hours is your new routine, actually letting them see the unfiltered version of you is causing panic attacks.
Are you one of the 61% of adults who doesn’t like their body? If so, there are things you can do to feel better, not just about your physique, but about your personality when dating.
Building confidence doesn’t happen overnight. For those of us who don’t have it in bucketloads, creating it is a commitment over a period of time.
Developing confidence comes through adopting certain positive habits in your daily routine.
Here are a few ideas we suggest:
looks
always wear clothes you feel gorgeous in
Wearing comfy clothes on your day off can be fun, but save it for an at-home treat. No one is saying you have to wear figure-hugging dresses and killer heels to do the grocery shopping (no one is stopping you either!) but even if it’s a pair of jeans and casual pumps, if you feel sexy in it, then you’ll show up as confident and glamorous.
We believe what you wear underneath your clothes is as important for your self-perception as the outfit itself. That’s why we supply an elegant range of lingerie for all occasions, including a trip to the supermarket.
So, what if you’re the only one who knows what you’ve got on? Our philosophy at My Love Bunny is if you feel attractive, it means you already are.
put your favourite photos around your home
Those pics you like posting on Instagram? Why not print them out, frame them and decorate your home with stylish images of yourself? That way, you can be reminded of how beautiful you are, especially on those bad days when you feel frumpy or spotty. We all get them! And the best part is you don’t need to scroll Instagram to see them and risk your confidence being derailed by all those gym selfies.
reframe your idea of beauty
When you feel ugly, maybe you have an image in your mind of a celebrity you admire or a glamorous cousin who got good cheekbones… But you have to realise that beauty isn’t a single face, body or hairstyle.
Attractiveness may be the way you speak with your hands or a certain expression with your eyes. It could be your tiny feet or cute ears. Whatever it is, own it!
To get over comparisonitis, you need to let go of Hollywood ideals of beauty, unfollow celebs and fitness influencers who make you feel bad, and focus on what you love best about yourself.
(Remember, it’s not real anyway – Photoshop, filters and angles are all tricks influencers use to seem perfect all of the time, but no one is!)
do some exercise you enjoy
It could be a walk, going to the gym or joining a dance class. Whatever it is, movement is a great way to make you feel good about yourself, improve your posture, build up strength and cardiovascular fitness and maybe even lose a few pounds. Feeling healthier and stronger boosts your self-perception, and it’s a great way to train for the bedroom!
work & life
decide where your strengths are
If you’re making yourself miserable at work because you’re trying to do every task on offer and be brilliant at them all, then you’re destined to have self-doubts. No one can be good at everything.
Decide what your special, unique skills are and write them down. Each day, read your list of amazing things out loud to yourself so you remember what it is you’re good at. If you need help coming up with things, then ask a close friend.
If you have to do something at work that’s not on your list, then do your best, but don’t pin all your self-worth on it.
stop trying to be miss perfect
Trying to be perfect is a form of self-sabotage and you’ll never be happy with yourself.
All that happens is, instead of being pleased with your achievements, you pick holes in everything.
This has two rather ugly side-effects:
- You don’t start anything out of fear of inevitable failure to meet your own unrealistic standards. This could mean you procrastinate, turn in work late and get a warning from the boss, which costs you even more of your precious self-esteem.
- You critique everyone else’s work. You often don’t delegate, keeping all projects for yourself. On the surface, it’s because no one else meets your high standards, but really it’s out of fear of being outdone. And the result is you end up with too much work to do and not enough time to do it in. And nothing will ever be perfect.
Instead, adopt the philosophy of “good enough”. Do the best you can in the time you have, and accept all the help around you.
push your personal boundaries
Lots of us have a fixed idea of what it is we can and can’t do. This could be a hangover from our younger days when we were categorised into the “academic”, “sporty”, “musical” and “artistic” pigeon-holes.
Now we’re older and wiser, we can let go of these unhelpful labels. If you were the booky one in school, that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy sports or bungee-jumping now.
If there’s a box you’ve squeezed yourself into, perhaps now is the time to take tentative steps into new areas. You may discover something you love, and the confidence that comes from learning something new will be invaluable.
That’s all very well, Jo, but I’ve got a first date tomorrow… How can I get confident and sexy right now?
So glad you asked, and you’re right. Those tips above are part of your long-term strategy. What can people do in a very short space of time to attract a suitor you’re only just getting to know?
pick out your sexiest dress or outfit (and undies!)
Depending on where your date is taking place, you need a suitable outfit. Go with something you love to wear that not only shows you off to your best advantage but helps you feel like you. If a floral frock makes you feel like your nan, you had better pick something else. Also, enjoy the power of foundation garments or a sexy bra-and-knickers set.
get your hair and nails done
Whatever rituals make you feel like a Hollywood star stepping onto the red carpet, get them booked in. It could be nails, a tan, professional makeup or a wax… Confidence is in the details!
think of a story you can tell
Go prepared with a funny anecdote or an interesting story you can share to get the conversation rolling…
prepare some questions to ask
We said in our last blog post that people love to talk about themselves, so let them do the talking – It takes the pressure off you to be engaging, and they’ll be glad you showed an interest.
be positive and smile!
It’s easy to have a moan, but this is not the best foot forward for a budding relationship. Keep the conversation light and enjoyable. Show your best side, without being inauthentic.
don’t expect too much
Lots of people make the mistake of expecting there to be a spark right away, but that’s not always the way it works. Treat it like meeting a friend for coffee. If you enjoy each other’s company, then it might be fun to suggest a second date, and if that doesn’t end up being the plan, at least you’ve had a pleasant couple of hours.
We hope you’ve got some good tips for finding your sexy confidence for your first date. To get you in the right mindset, here are a few lingerie items and sex toys to help you explore your confident side.