how to look sexy and feel confident for the first night with your new love interest

Most ladies have a hard time accepting that their body is good enough for a first date.

At least we can wear clothes that accentuate our shape and hide the parts we’re least proud of, but when we get into bed at the end of a wonderful evening, we worry that there’ll be nowhere to hide.

Instagram models and celebrity culture has promoted a lot of unrealistic expectations around body shape, and it’s taken away a woman’s ability to feel sexy in her own skin. So what can you do to feel better about your body when a moment of passion arises and you haven’t got an abundance of time to plan?

reframe your thinking

If you feel scared that you have to impress the other person and that they’ll judge you, you need to change these thoughts.

First of all, you’ve already enticed them because they want to come to bed with you. Something about you has cast a spell on them and they’re not going to worry about hip dips, spare tyres, the lack of thigh gap or slightly sagging boobs. They are attracted to you as a whole and these minor issues don’t matter to grown-ups. A body is beautiful because of its flaws, not in spite of…

In short, anyone you choose to let into your bed is a very lucky person indeed.

it’s not all about the body

As women, we think the body shape is the be-all and end-all, but the body is only one part of you. That means you can give some consideration to other parts in order to feel sexy and confident: your hair, your make-up, your skin and your smell.

A lover can find your hair incredibly sexy, as well as the colouring in your face when you’re excited. They’ll want to run their fingers through your hair, then kiss it and smell it, so make sure it’s soft and not full of sticky product that will get tangled up.

Using lotions or creams to soften up your skin and give it some alluring scent will make the encounter an extremely pleasurable experience. Shave your legs on the day so they don’t feel prickly.

keep it ambient but don’t turn off the lights

They want to see you, not have sex with a shadow, so leave a little light on rather than let it stay pitch black. A lamp will give enough light for you both to be seen, but also benefit from the moodiness and shapely contours the shadows create. The light needs to be nearest to you, and not your partner for best results.

If you’re using candles, then make sure to keep them well away from the bed or any furniture that might get knocked during the action.

use the tricks every woman has, whatever her shape

Whether you’re straight up and down or you have more rounded curves, there are certain movements all women can effect to appear to their most sexy advantage.

Whether it’s brushing your hair back, looking downwards and showing them the side of your jaw bone, or arching your back to enhancing your bum and minimise your waist, there are lots of things you can do to foreground your favourite assets.

None of this depends on having a flat tummy or skinny thighs, so embrace it.

And of course, the gaze is the sexiest trick of all – Use your eyes to look them straight in the eye during, or to look away in a teasing manner.

These are just a few recommendations for looking and feeling sexy for a big night without lots of prep or weeks of bootcamp. The most important thing is that you tell yourself you’re amazing and that you seek your own pleasure, so they’ll also become incredibly aroused.